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Preschooler Calls Out Mama: “Take Five”

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This morning, while getting our shoes on to go out the door to school, Will was asking his usual stream of questions and moving at a leisurely speed. Being late already, I could keep my cool no longer and let out a pained breath. Will immediatly asked me “why did you do that”
I told him “I’m stressed out”
Will declared matter of factly “take five.”
I asked “who taught you about that?” (I actually was not sure why he had said that… I had never heard him say that before.)
He said “I did.” Then he further explained “you need to take five deep breaths because you are really stressed out.”

Oh dear.

Well at least we are having a healthy conversation even if its about mama’s unhealthy lifestyle.

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(Upon further reflection, I remembered that I have told him before that we need to take a deep breath if we are scared or stressed. Taking more is better… this must be where he came up with this. I appreciate how he was able to adapt it so smoothly to this situation.)

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RESOURCES  – Quick & Easy :

Stress Management: Breathing Exercises for Relaxation

Stress Relief Secret #1: Stop and Breathe

Breath Stress Relief Technique: Free, short instructional video from Yoga Today

Preschooler Disarms “Mama Mean Face”

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As I was hurrying Will, my 3 year old son, to get his shoes on so that we could leave for school he asked me:

“Mama, why do you have that face?”

Disarmed, I asked “What does it look like?

“A mean one” he replied.

Gulp. I took a breath to help ease the lump I felt both in my belly and in my throat. My sweet man was doing just what I have been encouraging him to do: communicate by using his words. Instead of acting like a crazy little man (by hitting or kicking or making spit spray out of his mouth with airborne raspberries, or, saying the word Stupid just to “get my goats”) he asked me a fair question.

I apologized and I told him that I was feeling frustrated and tired. I think I then switched to talking about pleasanter things and rearranging my face to reflect that of loving (if still damn tired) mama.

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I have been wanting to write about some of the things I have been experienceing about parent-hood as well as what my preschooler has been experiencing but I have been too damn tired, frustrated and, hesitant to share those things.

I have things I want to share, things I want to ask, and things I want to dialogue about.

Don’t most parents head to the internet to ask questions or to learn more about a subject. Don’t we want to hear about what other parents are experiencing and what they have tried and discovered?

I am finding that I am becoming a child advocate and a spring of knowledge not only about children, parenthood, schools but also about improving oneself and about social good. It has taken me a load of time that I “should” have been spending doing other things – things like getting a job or cleaning my house.

To be continued…

Dear San Francisco Mama Bloggers

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Dear San Francisco Mama Bloggers,

I have been searching for you but am finding you are harder to find that I thought it would be.

I would love to connect with you and hear your stories, the good and the bad. I want to know what you have learned, what you have questions about, what you want to know more about, and what your fears and worries are. What are your dreams? Why aren’t you doing them? Can we support each other to reach for them?

I envision a community of mamas (or anyone who is interested in what a mama’s life is about) be it virtually, physically or both.

If you heard my call, tell me, what is on your mind? And, are you free this weekend? Let’s meet at the park and say hi. If you cannot make it out, then, leave a little note in the comments section, or email me privately. I love notes. I love to leave them. I am so delighted when I receive them.

I look forward to making a connection with you. And, if you are up for it, through that connection, I will connect you to those who also want to connect.

Yours,

Christine

San Francisco Bay Area Mama

e: christine at maternityshare dot com

Ps. Even if you aren’t currently in the San Francisco Bay Area, feel free to reach out!

So Few Moments and So Much to Give

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There are so few moments to sleep with a little one. Yesterday and today I did not get to nap during the day. This does happen but two days in a row with little sleep at night is rough. I have been rushing around catching up on chores since Billy got home from work. I feel so ragged. It could be worse though. Really I am thankful for my life, challenging as it it right now.

I am still dealing with the Baby Blues / Postpartum Depression. Today I listened to a speaker that Oprah interviewed on a podcast about Tao. I don’t have any specifics to say about it but I do want to say that it made me realise that I can give so much. Well, not so much now but as much as I CAN give now, I will give. Basically, I have decided that whenever possible I will practice “opposite thinking” and the art of giving so that my issues wont engulf me and suck me down into gloom and doom. So I am cooking up a plan for a meeting of sorts for new moms that will be all about supporting, comradre, and learning. I have already been bringing moms I meet together and that feels nice. And, I share info I have gleaned and they share with me. I want to keep doing this and also make it more organized. Perhaps it will be a weekly meeting with revolving focuses. One week could be me teaching bellydance, another could be a infanct CPR class, etc etc… Anyway, I like this idea. This is just what I would want to participate it, so, why not be the person to inspire and organise it?