My dear friends in Julia and Nicole in Portland, Oregon, wanted to honor me and Billy with a baby shower. Kisses to them! So, at their request, I gave them a list of emails to send out evites for the party.

I keep wondering how many of the emails I gave were no longer current or got eaten by spam filters. I know some of the emails were returned with a delivery failure notice but Nicole fixed those. Sometimes it just happens that people don’t check some of their accounts very often or, they abandon an email account. I almost never check my yahoo email and I don’t have it set up to forward to my main account that I use all the time. I do do this for all of my other email accounts that I use. I don’t do this for my yahoo account because gets tons of emails that are almost 100% irrelevant to me as I used it at my old job for work related conversations.

The baby shower evite that was sent to by brother Lenny went to one of his semi-abandoned accounts that he very rarely checks. I had no idea but I found out when my mom asked me wether or not Lenny and his fiancée were invited because he told her he did not receive the evite. As for my mom’s invitation, the evite that was sent to her went straight to her spam inbox which she doesn’t check.

Then there are the people who do receive the evite but don’t usually RSVP. I tend to be one of those. The reason I don’t end up RSVPing is almost always that I am unsure if I can make it. Sometimes I don’t out of a sort of shyness.

I like the idea of online invites as it is paperless, it lands in your inbox right away, you can send messages with your RSVP or, privately message, and it can make planning and coordinating party details quicker and easier. Plus, it’s fun to be able to see what other partygoers are saying.

In hindsight, I think I should have confirmed ahead of time with every single person on the guest list that I had their current email address. And I would have liked to personally check in with them and say hello, and ask how they are doing. But, time was of the essence and I skipped this step. I hope that no one’s feelings got hurt if they didn’t receive an evite when I intended for them to get one.

All I can do is learn from this experience.

Well, now I can’t attend the shower anyway due to the fact I cannot travel and must bed rest. I do know that I want to have a big get-together when I go to Portland for the first time once I have the baby! For that, I cannot wait!